Where the Past Ends and You Begin

The Shaping of Who We Become

We are born untouched, blank bodies with open hearts and soft beginnings. Everything after that becomes the shaping. Family, patterns, old beliefs, and the quiet rules of the home we grew up in begin to teach us how to exist. Some of these lessons become our anchors, and others become our limits.

Traits We Carry Without Choosing

For years, I carried traits I did not choose. Some helped me survive. Some helped me win. Some kept me small without me noticing. The truth is simple and uncomfortable. What shaped us is not required to stay.

Awareness is the first break in the pattern. It is the moment you look at your habits and ask yourself whether you chose them or if they were handed to you without question.

The Versions of Ourselves We Outgrow

One of the traits I have carried is stubbornness. It has been my sharpest edge and my quiet trap. It made me unstoppable, but also difficult to meet, difficult to confront, and difficult to disagree with. So I ask myself whether I want to carry it forward, or if there is a new way of being I am ready to grow into.

Changing yourself is not loud. It is not an announcement. Change is a series of small choices made when nobody is watching.

When Others Still See Who You Used To Be

Sometimes the people around you resist your evolution. That resistance is normal. They met you in an older version of yourself, and it takes time for them to learn the new one.

Growth asks for patience. You reshape quietly while the world adjusts slowly.

You Choose What Comes Next

Your past does not get the final word. You do. You can end what limited you. You can expand what strengthens you. You can become someone new again and again.

The woman you become is chosen, not inherited.

Love always,
Amberly @ambersabourin