Ghosting in Dating Why People Vanish Without a Word

And Then He Vanished My Ghosting Experience

And then he vanished without saying a word as if the past two months meant nothing. As if his whispered promises were meaningless. Welcome to the world of ghosting. It fucking sucks.

What Is Ghosting

For those unfamiliar, ghosting is the act of abruptly cutting someone out of your life romantically or platonically without explanation. It is disrespectful, hurtful, and can be emotionally damaging especially for those with preexisting self esteem challenges.

Why Ghosting Is So Common Today

Apps like Tinder, Hinge, and Bumble make ghosting all too easy. Delete the match and communication stops. No confrontation and no emotional discomfort for the ghoster. When the connection is not strong the social consequences seem minimal. But here is the truth which is that ghosting is pathetic behavior and plain and simple.

Why Ghosting Bothers Me

Ghosting frustrates me for two reasons. Avoiding honesty is cowardly. Am I really that intimidating that someone fears my reaction. Assuming I cannot handle the truth is insulting. Rejection is a normal part of life and dating is full of it. I have survived rejection. So can you.

The Excuses Ghosters Give

Sometimes ghosters offer reasons like I started seeing someone else or my feelings got too strong. The translation is that they did not want to be honest. These excuses are weak attempts to save face. The truth is simple which is that a clear and respectful rejection is better than vanishing.

Respectful Ways to Reject Someone

Next time you feel like ghosting try honesty instead. Some examples.
“Hey, I’ve enjoyed spending time together, but I don’t feel the romantic connection I’m looking for. I hope you understand. I’d love to stay friends if you’re interested.”
“I think you’re great and have enjoyed getting to know you, but I don’t feel the emotional connection I’m hoping for. I wish you the best.”
The key is to be authentic, gentle, and respectful.

Dating Is Hard Don’t Make It Harder

Every person deserves honesty and respect. Ghosting might seem easier, but in reality it is cowardly and hurtful. Challenge yourself to be upfront because the results may surprise you.

Author: Talya, xox