What No One Tells You About Postpartum Depression A Mom’s Honest Journey

The Invisible Struggle of Postpartum

When a woman becomes pregnant, congratulations pour in and gifts abound. But once the baby arrives, everyone disappears. While new moms are adjusting to sleepless nights and a transformed reality, support often fades and leaves them to navigate postpartum challenges alone. It truly takes a village not just to raise a child but to help a new mom adjust to motherhood in a healthy way. Every woman’s postnatal experience is unique, but after my own battle with postpartum depression I feel called to break the stigma and increase awareness.

My Introduction to Postpartum Depression

My mother first asked if I was experiencing postpartum depression. I was offended at the time but her question lingered. Later, I researched the signs online which included difficulty bonding with your baby, extreme sadness, feelings of worthlessness, and guilt. I did not feel those applied to me. I was a stay at home mom, exclusively breastfeeding, and deeply bonded with my daughter. But as time passed I realized I barely recognized myself. My life had become all about motherhood and I hated it. Thoughts of harming myself or my baby occasionally surfaced. I felt isolated and afraid to speak out. Journaling became my lifeline. One night I shared a passage from my journal with my partner and he was shocked at the depth of my thoughts and urged me to seek support.

The Emotional Rollercoaster of Postpartum

I loved being a mother but often did not enjoy it. I resented my partner and felt overwhelmed by responsibilities. I obsessed over my postpartum body. Stretch marks, sleepless nights, and mom guilt created a cycle of self betrayal. I felt trapped and miserable. I felt depressed and anxious yet afraid to admit it. The turning point came when a friend shared a post from a Black doula who was candid about her own postpartum struggles. The comment section was full of other moms validating their experiences. For the first time I felt normal. I realized I was not alone.

From Surviving to Supporting The Birth of The Goddess Garden

I began sharing my journey online and eventually created The Goddess Garden which became a brand to educate, support, and normalize postpartum challenges. I became the friend I wished I had. I visited new moms and helped with dishes or prepared meals or simply watched the baby so she could shower. I checked in intentionally and asked how she felt and reminded her that it is okay not to be okay.

Learning to Be Gentle With Myself

Today with a two year old and a four month old my postpartum experience is different but still challenging. I breathe through scary thoughts and communicate openly with my partner. I treat my body with compassion. I have realized that my postpartum journey was not just a struggle. It was a calling to educate, support, and shift the conversation surrounding motherhood.